What Else Have You Lost While Being Obsessed With Weight Loss

Sometimes a memory is so vivid that you feel liked it just happened yesterday. You know what I mean? You are sitting at home and you hear some music on the radio, and suddenly you are transported to a different time and place, without ever leaving your chair. The following story is a memory from over 30 years ago. It was triggered by the smell of chlorine, when I was cleaning my bathroom.

Having just returned from a six month trip to Israel, I was sitting in my apartment. It had been an amazing experience, new friends, new sites, new foods-and I had gained 15 pounds. One of my oldest friends, Joan, who I hadn't seen in several years, called me on the phone. "Let's get together at the Jewish Community Center swimming pool. We can get together for a little while, and go swimming and then go out and have a cup of coffee!" It was such a good idea, and I really wanted to see Joan. But I remember telling her I was busy, sorry, I couldn't make it, I already had plans, maybe another time.

Do you know what my real excuse was? I felt I was too fat and didn't want to be seen in a swimsuit! Here I was, sitting in my apartment, doing nothing, and deciding against seeing an old friend because I was afraid of how I looked! I thought she would think I was a failure, that I didn't know how to take care of myself anymore. Believe it or not, I thought she wouldn't like me because I was fat. I just knew she would think I had become sloppy and lazy, and I was no longer worthy of her friendship. And do you know what I did next? I punished myself by staying alone and eating, proving that I was not worthy of being around other people.

How many moments have you missed because you didn't like how your body looked? Rather than getting together with family or rekindling old friendships, we stay home by ourselves- punishing ourselves for a crime we believe we've committed: the crime of not of not looking like the models in the magainzes; the crime of
wanting to eat the foods we'd like to enjoy, instead of the ones that are "good for us." Instead, guilt holds us back.

Becoming "at peace with food" is a journey that involves developing a new relationship with food. Instead of being marked by frustration and disappointment, by fear and competition between you and the food you eat, food takes its place as one of the many activities in your life, along with family, friends, working and being active. And, like these other activities, it becomes pleasurable.

In order to be at peace with food, you need to learn about yourself and why you have the relationship you do with the food you eat. All relationships take time to develop and change. Your relationship with food is no different.

And when you become at peace with food, you will not being afraid to be around your friends, your family, and the food that often accompanies these get-togethers.

Life is too short. Please stop missing out on those significant moments in your life. Go swimming with Joan.


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