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Here's where you come in: It's often up to the women in relationships to take on the role of the health advocate, according to another study that came out earlier this year. But just like you wouldn't take too kindly to being confronted about your weight (eek, can you imagine?), tread lightly with your partner. “Guys can be really sensitive, and this type of subject has to be dealt with gingerly,” says psychologist Karen Sherman. Here's how the experts suggest talking to your partner about his health:
Accentuate the positive. Broach health topics by focusing on his positive behaviors—not what he’s doing wrong, Sherman recommends. Wait for a time when he’s eating healthy or working out, and then tell him how much you like seeing him taking care of himself. Experts suggest you’ll have better results and face less resistance if you avoid complaints and accusations.
Approach him from the side. Women tend to prefer face-to-face conversations, says Ian Kerner, PhD, a relationship counselor and bestselling author of She Comes First. But men often find this type of interaction confrontational and prefer a side-by-side chats instead. “Unless you want your words to send him into battle mode, talk with him while you’re taking a walk or driving together,” Kerner advises.
Take the lead. “From exercise to eating well to cutting back on alcohol, men will often follow the lead of their partners,” Kerner explains. When he looks at you, he should see the positive changes he can make in himself, Kerner adds.
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