QuestionHi,
I'm 5.3" and weigh 110-115 pounds -depends on the day. Please don't say : so what do I want ?! :)
I can only keep this weight with HUGE effort, I loose it fairly quickly if I can keep my hands off the best foods: pasta & chocolate :)) which understandably is very difficult. I have a tummy which I can't seem to be able to get rid off - whilst I'm a small frame I wear UK size 8 I could wear size 6 if it wouldn't be for my stomach.... so its a fairly large one...
I don't exercise, I don't eat breakfast, I drink 1.7-2 l of water every day (I'm very good at this) eat boiled eggs for dinner or mozarella cheese,a bowl of pasta around 5pm, and snack on fresh & dried fruits,seeds, chocolate, coffee till late.
I could be smaller if only I could stop eating... but every now & then I loose it and start eating everything.
Can you pls provide some long term thoughts of what & how to do....
Your answer would be much appreciated
Best Regards
June
AnswerDear June,
Is it possible that you have forgotten to read my profile? Because I think my answer is going to be at odds with your question. I think I need to redirect you to a diet (weight-loss) category, for you to find more sympathy with your plight. I only provide information on eating healthily to improve your sense for the spiritual being that you are within. While you would benefit highly from understanding what this means, I don't think you want this kind of information at this point in your life. But maybe you can take it with you that one day you might.
It is a pity that you have not included your age, but from your problem I guess well under 21. It is common for peer pressure and superficial trends to warp your sense of reality when you are in the prime of youth. If you are still not mature (Anthroposophically speaking not before 21)working out what is a healthy diet should not really be left up to you, but sorted by your parents.
For the measurements you have given me you are a little underweight, which is not very healthy. You should be aiming for 125. Realise that organs may suffer if you do not nourish yourself sufficiently and with the right stuff (veg, fruit, wholewheat carbs, protein etc, you must know the deal). Your immune system will become damaged, you will lose the quality of tissue and tone (bone, skin, hair/muscle). But even more unhealthy (psychologically speaking) is your urge to lose even more weight. From what you describe, you seem to be fairly fixated on size and less interested in your health. This is very normal in this day and age, but lamentable nonetheless. I must ask: what on earth do you want, dear June? If not self-respect, self-acceptation, and slow and steady progress? But the young are restless, and nervous for the pressures they feel put upon them. They are also undisciplined, lazy and spoiled.... the snack culture and fast (or pappy) food but one sign of this. I can only blame a lack of love and devotion for this. For anything or one. Where there is not enough love the body becomes a terrible burden and also quite dark - a lump of weight and depression ensues. My idea of a healthy diet is all about providing your inner life with light and cosmic energy so that you can bear the darkness and shadows of life which will need to weigh down upon you. The young are also very disillusioned and believe all needs to be fun, glitter, and instant result. This is a quite simply a fairly pathetic lie (male) chauvenistic people with money and power hold over you.
Weight-loss diets should really only be considered by the (morbidly) obese. Anybody who calls themselves fat without proper objective reason is quite ridiculous. Having said that, your discomfort with your body and anything you consider over-weight is to be taken very seriously, no matter how ridiculous it is on a rational level. Your problem is not a rational one. It is why I would suggest a diet that stimulates clear and practical thinking, forceful willing and tender feeling. But one cannot be patient with such advice till one is ready. For now, though, you might like to bear in mind that doing one thing (eating too much bad food) and wanting another (stop eating - bad food) is actually like a dog chasing its own tail. You could see that as a senseless thing that needs a proper turn around in your thinking.
My type of diets begin with thinking about being respectful - to your own body (not your whims and second hand desires) and to the Life Force and Mother Nature's stores. Naturally, it would help all youngsters so much if they were TAUGHT to eat for life as much as they are taught to catch a ball, ride a bike, brush their teeth. You need to think of eating in terms of supplying yourself with radiant energy to begin with, sourcing natural ingredients from the teet, throughout toddling, right into the teenage years.
If your honesty reveals that you have a body-dysmorphic type of problem (where you still feel overweight when you are actually underweight), you need to consult people who can help you with body dysmorphia or counsel you through social and personal pressures. Your GP should be able to refer you to a nutritionist/counsellor who can then suggest other therapies if necessary (alternative or conventional, and all aimed to help you get a more realistic grip on life and a more positive self-image.) It is important to start out in life at 21 with a clean slate, if you've had a less than perfect childhood. Midlife crises are a luxury these days, you have to start taking inventory and real SELF control at a much earlier age nowadays, or everything will end up terribly pear shaped before you reach 30.
There, I've gone and told you what you already knew I would tell you, anyway. But now that I've said you have an unholistic understanding of yourself and an unhealthy, erratic and imbalanced eating habit, you can take it or leave it with as much rebellion or as slight a shrug as you care. I can hand you but an oar with which to paddle, or a post from which to push off from: but set sail upon the sea of self-knowledge and responsibility you must, in any case. You may have to dock at many different ports until you understand why we eat, why we live, who we are that we are. We are what we eat, but no less so what we eat reveals what we are not yet.
Leaving you with this riddle for the long term,
I wish you all the very best, and apologise for having taken so long in replying without maybe being much help, at all, but my emails got chewed up by some bug recently.
If you ever want any advice that my profile suggests I can give, do not hesitate to contact me again.
Love Evelyn.
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