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I'll try to ask this question as briefly as possible. I am 24 almost 25 years old and going on about 250 pounds. After two children I hate who I am. It has worn on my self esteem and I decided months ago I was determined to loose weight. I didn't like what I had turned into after I had my daughter. My entire family is heavy so i'm sure its genetic partly, but I've always been "big", but happy at least. Now its gotten out of control. At first I just tried to take diet pills, of course that didn't work and I tried to eat healthy, but I always ended up going, Just one day.... I'll just eat this and start tomorrow... FINALLY I bought an ellipitcal machine and started eating special k cereal for breakfast and lunch, limited myself to one diet coke per day, drank water all through out the day, if I wanted a sweet it was sugar free jello pudding... I eat smart ones weight watchers dinners or baked chicken or chicken noodle soup for dinner. No fried foods. I hate salads and most foods like that so its hard for me to eat veggies, but I eat corn, the occassional baked potato and as a treat I'll sprinkle some bacon over it on occasion. I exercise 30 minutes on the e. machine per day every day and I try (since I have an easy office job working at my desk all day) when its nice out to walk 30 minutes on my lunch. I have been sticking to this. I also eat yourgurt because I heard you can loose weight eating that too. Right now I'm taking TrimSpa to curb my appetite as well. I'm getting no results. What am I doing wrong? Its so hard for me now to stay on track knowing nothing is happening. I have no insurance and can't afford to go to a doctor to get advice on this am this is my last stitch effort to get help. I want to be happy with myself and I know I shouldn't be down on myself, but it is hard to look in the mirror sometimes. Is there something I"m doing wrong? Thanks so much ahead of time for answering this. It truly means alot to me.

Thanks,
Samantha

Answer
Samantha, you have to alter your motivation before you do anything else. How can you "hate yourself" when you have gifted this earth two new lives and are investing the time, effort and love into nurturing them to become meaningful contributors to our world? How can someone (a mommy) be loved so, so much and not love herself? JUST THE WAY YOU ARE?
It's also a mistake to blame 'genetics'. We are only predisposed to easily retain weight. Unless we have a specific, typically pretty rare genetic disease, the only real 'genetics' about being heavy is what we learn to eat and like to eat by how our family is (and probably has been for generations). That's why it looks 'genetic' - because favorite recipes are often passed on for hundreds of years! We learn how much to eat by watching.
Finally - Samantha, stop believing even a little bit in the commercials and ads you see. Yogurt does NOT contribute to weight loss and the FDA has ordered all of those dairy ads to be removed and/or re-worded. You need to listen to the words "might contribute to" and other implications. As it turns out, the doctor who orchestrated the small study (I believe it consisted of 11 people. Yup, just 11 ) that originally looked like dairy intake increased fat loss by a tiny percent - was employed by the DAIRY counsel! Hmmm?
 The cereal 'diet' thing is the worst idea I've ever heard of and I honestly wish the FDA would remove them too. You can eat ANY cereal twice a day rather than a regular meal and chances are it'll reduce your calorie intake enough to lose weight - at first. It won't be 'fat' (it'll be water weight) and it'll come right back.
 Diet ANYTHING products? Not a single one has been found in respected, Journal of American Medicine Association studies to actually work. In fact, the teeny-tiny print on most of them indicate that WITH restricted food and exercise you may lose .7 to 1 lb a week.  Typical low cal diets and exercise will result in up to TWO lbs a week loss.  
 If you reduce your food intake too much, you could actually end up gaining weight as your body burns muscle first for fuel, lowering your metabolism and converting it to FAT so you'll survive what it thinks is starvation. It's why typical dieters will regain ALL the weight they've lost, plus 20% MORE when they go 'off' the diet.
 OK, so this is pretty long - take a click over to my site where I've laid it all out. Exactly HOW to lose weight, without 'diet' and without giving anything you like up! No gimmicks, no products, no pills, no nonsense. And honestly, if you just try this for maybe 3 months - you'll SEE!  Really. Where will you be in 3 months if you don't? Imagine where you'd be if you started just 3 months ago.
 There's nothing to start, so there's no eating yourself silly the day before you "go on it" (I know, I used to do this ALL the time!) - and that cereal is great to feed the pigeons with. Not for humans. If your cereal doesn't have the words "whole grain" in the first three words, don't bother.  Life cereal has it; Cheerios, frosted shredded wheat, toasted oat flakes, ANY oatmeal, there's a lot of choices that taste a lot better than what you've been having.
 There's nothing for sale, no signing in and it's what worked for me and still does.
 www.GetTheReal.info

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