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Hello,

I apologize before hand for taking any of your valuable time.

I am a 30 years old male suffering from the fact that I'm overweight.

I am miserable in many ways and just reached the hopeless edge unless you find a way to bring back the smile I used to have on my face when I was a kid.

I've been overweight my whole life, I'm my family's only son and my mom believed that food was her special way in telling me 'I love you'.

Being overweight has shattered my self-confidence totally. I have married and divorced the wrong woman - and even have a little daughter - just because of this fact, that I'm overweight and consider myself ugly, though I'm not.

I used to wear glasses when I was a kid but then had LAZIK five years back and you won't believe the slight confidence I regained back due to that.

A year and a half back, I met this wonderful girl and we fell in love. A month after she left and went away to study abroad and I kept on visiting her for a week every two months till she finishes her studies, which will happen this July end.

As you might have guessed, she's perfect. Pretty, slender and very slim which is unlike the woman i married, which i chose to be double my weight, just to feel that i was not fat and still ended up left alone.

A million times I have asked her why did she love me, being overweight and ugly but she always assured me that I'm not ugly and in fact handsome but could lose a few pounds and become normal.

I used to weigh 266 pounds before I met her, mainly due to bad eating habits, childhood and probably genetics. I started reading diet books and gained quite a good knowledge. I tried going low fat and cut down the calories to around 1000 daily and started to lose weight. In a three months time I lost 33 pounds but that was it, I couldn't lose anymore without doing some sports. So I started walking and even bought a treadmill. Things went smooth and viola for the first time in my whole life I started jogging and running. I remember nine months back that I actually thought of joining a marathon. I was in great spirits and in another 4 months I lost another 33 pounds and people around me were so amazed.

I enjoyed weighing 200 pounds and gained back 60% of the confidence I lacked all my life. But that was it, for another six months I just maintained the weight but was never able to lose any more pounds.

I am 5 feet 8 inches tall with a medium frame and I thought 155 pounds should be my target. However I reached a stage where my calories intake was 450 calories only in a day and I used to burn around 500 calories on the treadmill.

It seems I was wrong! My body became in a starvation mode! Anyhow, I got really tired, eating so less, exercising so much and in another three months just quit the whole thing.

Now, I'm very depressed because I gained back 1/3 of what I have lost and I weigh now 220 pounds. I tried to go back on diet and tried different things, like GI which was really tough for me and then Atkins which I hated when my leg cramps started and now I'm doing nothing but eat and just wait for a miracle.

If you want to know why I'm depressed and hopeless, it's because I'm supposed to propose for this girl when she comes back and get married to her but it seems her family, especially her dad, they despise of overweight people and consider them not fit for their beautiful daughter. I am also under a lot of stress coz I have around 3 to 4 months maximum time, to lose another 35 to 50 pounds and I don't know how.

Today I called a clinic and I thought of taking an appointment for a liposuction surgery but I know that no one around me will let me do it, even I myself I'm not convinced that's it's the answer to my problems.

So Mr. Kapadia, do you think that you could help me? I need to lose weight and become fit once and for all and I am ready to do anything, the only thing which stands in my way a little is that I have a very demanding job and desperate state of mind.

Thanks,

Robbie

Answer
Robbie,
First, I must say you have more guts and confidence in being able to put your feelings onto an open forum, than most people. So I congratulate you on taking this step..I believe you may have found your best opportunity to date.

Your circumstances are very similar to a lady client of ours and I have very good ideas on how you can over come this but I must be able to talk with you and understand some important aspects that cannot be fully understood via email.

Kindly email me at [email protected] and note your contact numbers and best times to call. Please also include which time zone you are in.
Robbie, I am ready and more than willing and able to help and it just needs your trust and action in allowing me to contact you.

At the conclusion I would then put a summary back onto Allexperts site so others may benefit.
I look forward to speaking with you soon.
Kind regards
Nevil

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