HELP! i need it now more than ever!!

Question
okay so the story goes this: im a 19 year old girl from oregon who has been overweight since a child, severly, reaching a size 18 woman jean size.... when i was only in the 5th grade. going into middle school at 205. ive tried diet after diet until 1 dat enough was enough and i gave up because i just couldnt do it by myself. mostly because i was younger and needed alot of family support that i never got. my mother too is obese. at around 265 now
shes given up now too. she has alot of medica problems that she takes medication for daily. About the last 3 years in my life has been So Rough. gaining more and more,id say around 95lbs since ive last been at a happier spot. lowest of lows and needing to make a change and desperate for help from others here because i just dont have what i need here. So im around 350 now. 19 years old. no major health problems associated with obesity and need to keep it that way. im searching for a realistic food plan. not diet. for my weight loss to be successful. hoping you may have any suggestions. as well as best exercises for me. im getting my gym mebership this weekend. i love jogging and walking on treadmills. anywho any advice would be appreciated thank you so much!!

Answer
HI Chavela

Right, well here's the good news.... you already know that diets don't work, so I don't have to convince you of that.  You've already discovered that if you go on diets - while they may help you lose weight in the short term, they change your body composition which means you'll inevitably gain back all the weight you've lost plus extra once the motivation has disappeared. (You've already got the evidence of this) I'm going to give you the URL's to a couple of pages, that when you use them all together will give you a natural, weight loss plan - no pills or magical cures.

Chavela - I want to tell you something I discovered after being anorexic and spending 20 years of my life dieting.  I thought that if I could just control my eating, all my weight problems would disappear.  Then I discovered that, in actual fact, that just made me way more food obsessed.  Here's what I really discovered, it wasn't about food and eating, it was about not loving myself sufficiently enough to make loving choices.... I'd highly recommend that you do this 3 minute a day visualization exercise which will help you realize what am amazingly special and beautiful person you are because it'll make your journey so much easier.

http://www.ditch-diets-live-light.com/summer-body.html (gives you a 10-step process to follow)

http://www.ditch-diets-live-light.com/basal-metabolic-rate.html (will help you understand why exercise is so important - this isn't something you'll find anywhere).  You say you already enjoy exercise, so that's good, the biggest thing is to do exercise consistently, and not too start off being too unrealistic.  Find ways to make is sustainable and fun.

http://www.ditch-diets-live-light.com/intuitive-eating.html

The other thing is that instead of relying on a scale (they can be very misleading), take some string and take a measurement of your chest, the area where your belly button is central, our hips and one of your thighs.  Mark which one is for each measurement and stick them up in your cupboard and then check how you're doing every month.

Chavela, I want to suggest you do something else as well - you obviously need some support, find yourself an online support group - you're welcome to find mine at http://www.ditch-diets-live-light.com .  The more your participate, the more support and encouragment you'll receive... and that can help a lot if you aren't getting the family support you need.

Good luck Chavela, and check in with me and let me know how your'e doing.
With kind regards
Cari

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