Motivate friend to lose weight

Question
Hello!

 I am really trying to lose weight. I am about 60 lbs overweight, and I have bad habits that are dying slowly but surely. But this question isn't about me. I'm trying to find a way to motivate my friend to lose weight. He is about 275, 5'10" and people ask if we're related, haha. Sadly we have the same big build, glasses, hair color. I really think we could have been separated at birth in another time and place. (Kidding). One thing I've considered is that I could "donate" my old clothes to him. I would hope it could motivate him to lose weight so he can fit into them. He is a cheap spender, and I would LOVE for him to join the gym but I don't think he's a) motivated and b) wants to spend the money. He's not assertive, and I don't believe has ever been on a date. I want to help, but before I help him he's got to help HIMSELF. How do I break through? Thanks.



Andrew

Answer
Hi Andrew,
You pose a very difficult question.  It is really hard to talk to someone about losing weight offending them or have them get defensive.  Like you said it is up to your friend to want to lose weight first and this can be very difficult.  Being an example is one good way to motivate someone.  If your friend doesn't want to join a gym then maybe you can try to encourage him to be active such as playing basketball or something else that requires physical activity.  This can show someone how being active can be fun and it might show them if they were in better shape then they could have more fun.  Just be encouraging and maybe try to find out why they don't want to lose weight.  Sometimes it is psychological and may require counseling.  You obviously can't force someone to lose weight so if he is your friend all you can really do is set an example and try to positively motivate them.  Hope this helps!  Good luck!

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