Does Fear Keep You Fat?

Many people want to lose weight and nothing seems to work—low cal; high protein; no carbohydrates, etc. Of course, nearly everyone drops a few pounds, but then they gain it back, and sometimes more.

On a conscious level, people blame it on a sweet tooth, lack of exercise, or genetics. No matter the explanation there is something going on at a deeper level that is holding you back, and that is fear. Yes, fear. How could that be?

Hidden anxieties around weight loss can keep us ‘stuck’ for years. Fear of:

• Unwanted attention from the opposite sex
• Being viewed as selfish
• Losing friends who are also overweight
• Others will have greater expectations — What is your next success?
• Expecting more of oneself—i.e. what is the next major success?

It doesn’t matter whether you have 100, 50 or 10 pounds extra weight; those extra pounds can serve as protection from the outside world.

What can you do to overcome the fear? The first thing is to recognize the actual source of your fear. Sit quietly and focus your attention inward. When you feel peaceful and calm, ask yourself this question: What am I afraid of?

Several thoughts will come to the surface. Listen carefully—avoid dismissing or discounting them, even if you think it is trivial or unrelated. Allow your mind to keep digging deeper.

When you have completed a thorough examination, write down the thoughts that came to you. Do you see any patterns? Were there any surprises? Be kind with yourself as you discover your inner truth. Look at yourself with loving eyes, free of judgment and criticism.

After you have discovered the cause of your fear, shed some light on it by asking yourself:

-How does this fear serve me?

-What does the fear help me avoid?

-What does the fear offer me?
-Does the fear serve me in multiple ways?

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear is the feeling one resorts to as a way to protect oneself from future mishaps, disappointments or betrayals. Is my fear justified now?

Whether your fear is justified or not, process your fear by expressing your concerns to a trusted friend, family member or professional. Be sure the discussion takes place in a safe, relaxed atmosphere where your defenses are down. Then you will have a better opportunity to understand the fallacy of your fear.

When you understand the fallacy of your fear, it won’t seem scary and you will be able to confront and resolve your anxieties, without turning to food for comfort.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Author, Inspirational leader empowers people to view life’s challenges as an opportunity for Personal/Professional Growth and Spiritual Awakening. http://www.drdorothy.net

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