Fear- A common Motivator for Self Confidence

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Fear- A common Motivator for Self Confidence
Copyright ? 2006


If you are like most people, you are often confronted with
fears that hold you back - consciously or subconsciously.
Although you weren't born with them, you are under the
strong influence of the environment that implanted them.
You might even be tempted to think that worry and fear as
the primary base from which your actions stem.

Salespeople know of this powerful influence. People buy
truckloads of insurance in preparation for some disaster
that "might" happen. "It is better to be safe than sorry."
Do you have an extra set of keys (or two) for your house or
car? Do you buy food, drinks or even pills that will help
you improve your complexion or lose unwanted weight?

Whether it is a fear of losing something good, or getting
something bad, fear is a driving force that is always
there. Why does someone behave rudely or arrogantly?
Because he or she is afraid of losing their "feeling of"
authoritative power, which would destroy or undermine his
or her position in society.

You already know where jealousy stems from - out of fear
for you, wanting or losing something you think you cannot
have or the fear that someone else will get what you feel
"belongs to you." New situations in life force you to
confront a new set of fears. You may even comfort yourself
by saying it isn't so bad. Have you ever made a doctor's
appointment, a dentist appointment or a hairstyling
appointment only to arrive in the respective waiting area
with no pain or the best hair day you've had in a long
time? Now you want to go home.

Fear is a powerful motivator. Some of the more common fears
are:

1. Fear of the Unknown
2. Fear of Failure and Rejection
3. Fear of Loss (losing what you have)
4. Fear of Facing Reality
5. Fear of Disapproval

You have to deal with all of these fears if you want to
succeed. You cannot deny them or banish them to your
subconscious, as that will only add fuel to a fire that
will probably and suddenly burst out beyond your control.

Like fires, fears are easiest to squelch when they are
still small. Confront your fears and banish them forever.
Start with- "The Fear of the Unknown." There isn't a person
alive that isn't apprehensive, nervous or even fearful of
entering new territory, wandering into the great unknown.
What will it hold? How will it change you? Will you be able
to handle the situation or complete the task? Will you know
what to do and have the ability to do it? Will you be
laughed at? Will it be worth it? One way of confronting the
unknown is to recognize that without action you will never
escape mediocrity.

The primary difference between people who fulfill their
dreams and those that don't is action - the former move
from words to action, the latter never get beyond the
words. Ask yourself: What could I lose if I begin to act?
Answer frankly. Typical answers are time, pride and so on.
You should note that these answers are merely superficial.
What could I gain? An experience that will, without a
doubt, make you richer (maybe financially) and one that
will bring you closer, above all, to success.

You shouldn't forget that it is self-confidence, overcoming
your fears and changing your habits or undesirable
attributes (like transforming yourself from timid to
outgoing) that bring you a step closer to attaining your
desires.

 
 

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